Just over two months ago my life changed irrevocably in an instant, no wonder I am still adrift. It is not just grief I need to grow around, I also have to heal from the trauma.
I am fortunate as I have a wonderful supportive community around me to draw upon, including close friends, family and a bereavement counsellor. Thanks to them and their continued regular contact as well as understanding I have been able to find the strength to bring some routine into my life. There are even odd moments on grey days when I can appreciate the beauty and joy around me.
Some hours though, and occasionally whole days, are simply overwhelming, and the pain of grief means nothing much happens. And that is absolutely fine. There are no rules about grief, there are no must dos and most importantly there are no time scales. Every grief journey is unique, and it is what it is.